You Don't Have to be a Wimp to be Abused

Author: Beverly Wallin
Genre: Christian Living/Self-Help

​“Jane,” a composite character, is no wimp. She is beautiful, strong-willed, intelligent and athletic. No one would ever suspect that she is a victim of Domestic Violence against Women. On the outside, Jane is a happy, active and capable woman. But Jane is brought up to be a people pleaser and a co-dependent. This causes her to be vulnerable to all kinds of relationship abuse. She is especially drawn to men who are Narcissistic. “Jane” experiences childhood sexual abuse and rape along with ignorance about sex. Her parents fail to notice her problems and only make things worse by being critical and sarcastic. Jane longs to be loved just the way she is. She believes she must perform to be accepted and loved. Jane enters into a marriage that is abusive. There are a lot of“Red Flags” that the author will point out along the way, but unnoticed by Jane. She doesn’t even realize that she is being abused. The way she is treated is her “normal.” Before Jane reaches the age of 30 she finds the help she needs. Being a strong woman emotionally and physically, Jane becomes able and willing to heal. You will learn if you or someone you love is in an abusive relationship and how they can get help and healing.

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Reviewer: Mary Hemlow

An informative, well written account of domestic abuse which may surprise some readers. A narrative set out in a way similar to a fictional novella, the main character is in reality a composite of several factual situations and experiences. The story format made for an interesting and straightforward read, smoothly developed, providing the reader with a clearer understanding of domestic abuse. The  content is thought provoking yet easy to understand.  A list of additional related books and websites provides further information and support.

Suggestions that might be offered; visually, the cover was not particularly attractive and while the title might be too long, it may serve to pique one’s curiosity while making a point. Because of the cover, an actual victim of abuse would be unlikely to feel comfortable reading it openly. And it should be noted that the book was not overtly Christian.

Overall, I would rate it at 4 stars.

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